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If you are constantly fighting for your relationship, maybe it's time to let that relationship go. Of course, there are going to be growing pains when you are learning how to grow and live with someone, but at the same time, if they refuse to do that softly or gain the tools to disagree with you respectfully, they will never learn.
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If you love someone or something, you need to act LOVING. If you aren’t consistently loving in relationships at best they’ll go stale, at worst there will be mistreatment. That includes the relationship with yourself.
Most importantly, if someone says they love you but treat you like garbage, they don’t. Be loving to yourself and leave.
Incorporating this frame of mind into your thoughts and actions is life changing.
Jul 17, 2024
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i think my heart will do anything to just keep on loving and keep on forgiving and it’s really time for my head to teach my heart thats it’s okay to lose.
Jan 5, 2025
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Is patience, trust, understanding, commitment, loyalty, acceptance, respect; an active verb rather than a noun; a safe harbor, a bedrock foundation, and a warm hearth. It can wax and wane over time like the phases of the moon or the changing tides of the sea. It may not always be a perfectly distributed 50/50 effort—there can be times where one is giving or receiving more than the other—but it’s going to be there as long as both parties choose to stoke the fire ❤️‍🔥 and I think it starts as simple friendship and grows with more time, familiarity, and mutual effort
May 14, 2024
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THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS NORMAL. Stop trying to be something that you are not, stop trying to be copy-paste <insert substyle that you do not even really like you just don't know who you are if you are not following a trend> for the longest time, I had no identity, I didn't know who I was outside of micro-trends and what was popping off on the internet. I wanted so badly to be normal that everything I tried was slowly but surely killing my spirit. People are clay. We are covered in little fingerprints, little specks of dust, and pieces of lint. No one person is without these things. Normalcy implies that there is a standard, uniform way to mold clay. You can never be normal, and that is so beautiful that's what makes life so worth it. I tried so long to figure out the "normal" way to live life that I missed out on so many things my teenage years are over, and they flew past me. I spent so long trying to be a normal teenager that I forgot that the most important part of this age is trying to figure out who you are by yourself through your actions, through your memories, and through the people around you, not by following what is normal. I will never be normal, and I am so grateful, I will always be ME. My spirit will be unique. My mind will remain creative. I will never be normal, and I don't want to be.
Feb 22, 2025
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Often people feel alone when they hear "no one is coming to save you" and yeah it's true, I was the only one who could save myself from the path I was going down, BUT everyone around me supported my growth, everyone who loved me showed me the same love before AND after I had changed. No one will save you but they're right beside you <3
Feb 23, 2025
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I made this up in like 10 minutes but this has been my thought process as an "ex" introvert
Should I Stay or Leave? A Decision Flowchart for Introverts
Am I feeling unsafe?
Yes → Is it because I’m anxious, or is it a genuinely unsafe situation?If anxious/new: Wait 20 minutes to see if I acclimate.If still feeling unsafe after 20 minutes → Leave.
No → Move to the next step.
Am I feeling bored?
Yes → Can I find something interesting here?Yes → Engage with that.No → Suggest a more interesting activity.Did they change the activity?Yes → Stay and reassess.No → Stay for 20 more minutes.Still bored? → Leave.
No → Move to the next step.
Am I feeling uncomfortable?
Yes → Is it a normal level of discomfort?Yes → Give it 20 minutes and reassess.No → Leave.
No → Stay.
A reminder: Many people say, "Get comfortable being uncomfortable," but society often acts like being an introvert is a flaw, as if no normal person could be one. While it's good to challenge yourself, forcing yourself into situations that make you feel awful or completely uninterested isn’t good for your mental health. Uncomfortable situations can help you grow, but if something makes you truly miserable, you should remove yourself. The best way to step out of your comfort zone is to understand why you’re introverted. I grew up introverted because I wasn’t allowed to do much, but pushing myself outside my comfort zone helped me explore my personality. However, if you’re naturally introverted, there’s no reason to force change. Instead, I recommend using a system to decide when to stay in a situation and when to leave—like a simple flowchart to guide your choices.
Feb 22, 2025