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it’s weird when sometimes i dont feel like a girl or i just want to be more girly and i feel physically incapable of it like i wanna wear pink and skirts and stockings and girly things but it feels like im pretending rather than comfortable
my current way to feel “girly” is to wear earrings and light makeup (mascara, liner, etc.), but i really don’t know if i have to feel comfortable with myself to be feminine or just fake it till i make it. sigh. 😔
Feb 24, 2025
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As a child growing up with brothers and as the fat black kid, i never considered myself feminine. Even when i lost weight in middle school and went to an all girls high school, looking girly or being more “feminine” was just not something i thought about.
I feel like recently, i wanted to explore that more, as this pull to dress and appear more feminine has become super strong. Having a house to decorate in any way I can, actually starting to feel better about my body to wear skirts again, etc has really influenced me. But my fears are that it may portray trad wife or child’s play; I’m nervous of stares or being questioned about my views if i were to give such a strong appearance of a girly woman.
But some of my inspirations have been strolling through vintage creators and small japanese insta accounts with super pink and fluffy aesthetics.
Hopefully i will build up the courage
Jan 5, 2025
Historically, I have been too insecure to be a girl. That pressure of prettiness, of being delicate, of being desirable. I refused to engage. But this year something has shifted. I love cardigans, I want to talk about how I do my hair, I learned how to do make-up. Even though I'm not a model, I adore making myself feel pretty and sexy. I'm falling in love with the culture of feminism, and reclaiming mother earth as a mother. Girlhood is something so insanely precious and now, despite it being so hard, I am so unbelievably grateful I get to experience it. Want to merge my soul with every woman on the planet and scream OH HOW I LOVE BEING A WOMAN!
Jan 17, 2025
I used to hate pink growing up so much because my mom used to force me to like it and that internalised in me alot to a point I was always like " I'm not like other girls, I hate girly stuff " I was never mean to people that liked more feminine things but ig I was very envious of them for loving the things they loved so loudly and I was scared to do that.
After going off to college I had the space and privacy to explore what I like and I realised I've always loved being feminine and I've loved girly things forever I just never felt safe enough to voice it. Everything changed when I was allowed to grow and I've grown to voice what I liked better even of people tell me I'm too much I'm not ashamed of it because it took me so long to grow into who I am.
I have glimpses of pink in my room everywhere now and just the sight of it soothes me.
Feb 24, 2025
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makes me feel fancy and stuff; also gimme recs on what i should try for snack future snack plates :)
Feb 17, 2025
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literally the only thing i wanna eat rn with a big ass bag of sunchips and a fruit punch arizona
Apr 26, 2024
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there are two types of solo dates i go on:
one, where i sit with myself like at a restaurant/cafe i wanted to try or a movie i really wanted to see to enjoy it how i want to
or two, where i surround myself with a new community so i feel less alone but I AM alone bc no one knows me
options for one: movies, cafe/restaurant, library, thrifting, doing art outside, spa day, making a new meal at home, getting a sweet treat
options for two: cooking classes, gym/zoomba classes, book clubs, pottery, hiking groups, escape rooms
these are off the top of my head but enjoy yourself love there’s no one better to have fun with than yourself !
Apr 28, 2024