once you get to know yourself better internally, you'll realize there are parts of yourself you can't access when you're out in the world, and you'll look forward to having your own company to visit them. it also helps yes, to do things and have hobbies, but also just going new places alone. people don't talk about this enough but depression and loneliness can very much be tied to a place, and if the only time you're alone is when you're in your room, you'll probably associate it with feeling sad and stuck. keep up a whimsical spirit and go exploring alone and think of things you never would in the company of others. make it special and you'll start to look forward to it.
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i see solitude as metamorphosis. you need that time in the cocoon to really check in with yourself and the joy of that comes from how you'll gain a deeper understanding of yourself.
sometimes i spend SO much time with myself that i get SO BORED that I HAVE to venture outside of myself. when i say venture, i mean challenging myself in how i self- express which will in turn, nourish my interactions with others when i choose to seek company.
proceeding to create art, but trying new methods. going down youtube rabbit holes of things i am interested in so i can discover new references. cooking a meal without following a recipe and surprising myself. making the space i am in super cosy (candles, snacks on deck, music, blankets) going on long walks and picking up conversations with strangers through shared observations of life around us. watching music festivals/boiler rooms and dancing around my room like a mad man.
once you feel comfortable in being by yourself, you'll be more aware of what you need from your company and when you seek it, you'll be a lot more intentional about it and cherish it even more.
Oct 7, 2024
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i’ve grown to really value my alone time, and i was able to reach that point once i started to associate time spent alone with peace, grounding, and recovery. when you’re alone, do things that bring you peace and inner joy so that over time, you begin to look forward to being alone. whether it’s self-care, reading a book, discovering films, or playing your favorite album, etc, learn to enrich yourself during your alone time. essentially, @ the end of the day we have to be able to depend on ourselves for a lot, so using alone time to ground yourself and learn self love is of upmost importance.
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Though some people might find this kind of depressing I actually see it as the opposite. It’s really been a while since I’ve done this but I see it necessary to go on a date with yourself once in a while. Go to a cafe, take a walk without any destination in mind, or you might as well go to the cinema on your own.
More than an act of self love I perceive it as a way to embrace solitude and get to know yourself more; It brings so much inner peace and helps to heal that part of yourself that finds loneliness daunting. There is a beauty in everything and solitude is not the exception.
Oct 7, 2024
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i love being alone. i know who i am when i'm alone and i love myself when i'm alone. when i'm around people it's easy to forget and i get lost and aimless.
how do you share parts of yourself without feeling overexposed? even just sharing creative work makes me feel like it's not mine any more and makes me doubt the part of myself that went into making it. but i also feel so stagnant when i'm not putting anything out into the world. where is the balance? how do you deal with this?
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