Rec | FEELING LIKE THE ODD ONE OUT

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It’s odd because despite no longer being in school, I still feel like the odd one out against my peers (in terms of using social media and things like that). I really try to have fun with it but I am left feeling strange, like I’m being observed like a zoo animal. I don’t engage with anyone I follow despite the fact that I know them all personally. And I feel like I’m nothing like any of them. And not in a quirky fun way. I just don’t feel like I’m experiencing life in the way that other people in their 20s are. This is a complete mess of rec but its just a few thoughts I have been having. Just one more reason why I love this app so much as opposed to the others.

@valoorie

16h ago

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@emmmmuh

This is such a relatable feeling!! Something I always have to tell myself is there is no “right” way to be doing anything. This is your life to live! Do what feels right and good and the people who make you feel more like yourself will follow. Plus, I think this is just a common symptom of figuring your self/shit/life out, which your 20s seem to be prime time for.

2h ago

@jxnator

Teddy Roosevelt did once maybe say “Comparison is the thief of joy.” And fuck was he right. Love finding out about new things from our connected world, hate feeling left out because of it.

5h ago

@cleanteeth

i honestly think everybody feels the same, nobody has a clue what they're doing and once you notice it, it's easier to live with them feelings yourself. i feel like i'm wasting my 20s

15h ago

@valoorie

@CLEANTEETH that’s very true. I try to make an effort to make the most out of everything I can, even online. And sometimes it can feel isolating but at least we have spaces like this one to feel more connected with others. Being in our 20s is so difficult so I totally relate.

14h ago

@choc_orange

This was so extremely real, some days it feels like everyone is in on a joke you don’t know about

15h ago

@valoorie

@CHOC_ORANGE you’re so right😭😭 I try to remind myself that those thoughts aren’t real and people don’t actually feel that way. I think a lot of people are just so used to looking at their phones that no one is truly connecting if that makes sense. The feeling that we are the odd one out is a lot of the time just a feeling, not the truth.

14h ago

@bisonspider

I know just what you mean

16h ago

@valoorie

@BISONSPIDER I’m glad it’s not just me, we live in a very strange time !!

14h ago

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