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you should try to have more pleasant experiences. for instance i'm reading JJK for the first time. i am also trying to join my students in writing an 80-page MS over the course of the next 8 months. i am unsure whether posting on here will bring me more happiness, or less, and also it's making me think of substack, which i have generally neglected. so now i'll make an effort to post on everything until i get bored.
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still new to this but i just decorated the cover of this little notebook to write down one thing each day that made me happy. been an avid journal-er for a while but i’ve found i tend to write to untangle negative emotions and i want to remember the good things too! plus now i’m actively searching for and remembering happy things throughout my day to write down :)
Jan 16, 2025
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I tend to have the most words when I'm angry, upset, or hurt. My journals, notes app, and artwork all can attest to this. When I'm happy life is easier, I don't need to write to feel sane or rationalize my feelings. I sleep well, I eat okay, I see people. I'm busy, I'm content. But this has the unfortunate side effect of not having my happiest moments stored in as much detail as my worst ones. I can find 22 notes entries with the word heartbreak but only 5 with the word delight. PI FYI is encouraging me to document the good. And I know I will appreciate being able to scroll through the things I liked this year in a way that I haven't been able to before.
Feb 15, 2025
Currently have three full pages in my notebook! I guess some might call this a gratitude journal LOL but it’s different when I do it.
My brother was telling me about this phenomenon called “target fixation”. It’s a panic reflex that happens when motorcyclists become fixated on a singular object, obstacle, hazard (e.g. a sharp curve on a winding road) and they will unconsciously steer in the direction of the thing they’re trying to avoid because their hands follow their gaze which leads to accidents.
You will follow your gaze so be aware of where you’re looking. Train yourself to seek out pleasure and appreciation! Understanding where + what you derive pleasure from increases your capacity to enjoy things which in turn makes you a more interesting person (imo). I think it’s just as important self-knowledge as understanding your triggers/trauma. It is a daily willingness to be transformed by small things.
Sorry for lecturing but I want good things for all of you.
Xoxo,
meg
Mar 29, 2024
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my first kiss was at 18 with my ex. he was the tallest person i'd ever met in my life. the art building had mildewy carpet and the lights were all going out, one by one. i wasn't really supposed to be in there; i was an english major. when c kissed me i thought i would only ever kiss one person for the rest of my life, and that person was him.
even though i am sure i was super bad at it and didn't know what to do with my tongue, i think i am pretty good at kissing now, though it would probably be in my best interest to ask people to participate in a survey of some sort. 1) when did we kiss 2) can u describe anything i did while kissing 3) did my breath smell okay 4) would u kiss me again 5) how long did we kiss for / why did we stop 6) how would u rate me on a scale of most memorable kisses vs. least memorable 7) if there were anything u would change about the experience what would it be and why
Jan 26, 2024
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do it hard!
Jan 27, 2024
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cos this is what yall wanted right
to me not give af
Feb 9, 2024