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even to people you think would never give you the time of day. you never know what’ll happen. Some people, even bigger acts, will get back to you. worst they can say is no or ignore you.
approach people at shows or message them
This applies to a lot of things in life. You’ll never know/get certain things unless you ask. so just talk to people…it’s fun!
Feb 15, 2024
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this might not all apply to you, but sometimes if I overthink social interactions in general, I end up missing out on what could have been a really good conversation. I usually like to ask myself what I’m genuinely curious about/want to know about a specific person and let my questions lead into a more fruitful discussion. worst case scenario is that don’t take the bait and then the conversation ends, but most of the time I find people like talking about themselves, which can lead to something y’all have in common.
I also don’t put pressure on myself to “make a friend” after one interaction. some people require crumbs of interactions before they start to let you in!
Mar 27, 2024
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I totally get the temptation to ask insightful and thought-provoking questions but remember sometimes you need to keep it simple. If it's a loud party with lots of people, not everyone is going to want to have a super deep conversation with someone they just met. Small talk is annoying and tedious but sometimes it's a much-needed entry point. Meet some cool people, get their contact info, and then message them later with some big questions.
Jul 20, 2024
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i have gotten a new fridge and a new stove from two different landlords this way - completely free of charge!! asking as an action opens the door for new connections and perspectives and is a much better alternative to feeling like you have to somehow assert your will on others to make your way through the world safely or successfully. it also is true that people love to share and talk about themselves, so asking is a great way to start out an interaction.
this sentiment is predicated upon the belief that people are good and want to help ! and that we can accomplish more together.
just thinking about this bc i called this antique shop and asked about an item i unfortunately left behind </3 but the person on the phone was more than happy to help, and my day is improved because 1) i tried and 2) i had a positive conversation with another person.
prescribing this as the cure to social anxiety for myself
Aug 10, 2024
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Sometimes you can just exist. you don’t (hopefully) need 50 hustles. You don’t need to be a writer and musician and artist and podcaster and influencer and girlboss or whatever. you don’t even need to signal how cool or smart or attractive you are. I know it’s hard cause I think our society incentives (forces?) people to be “on” all the time, but it’s probably better for your own sake to just exist for yourself and your love ones and to adjust your expectations of what a successful or meaningful life is.
Sorry for being pedantic, just know a lot of friends and family my age or younger that seem to be struggling right now in all sorts of ways. Just know, regardless of what anyone says or even what you say or do, that you guys have inherent dignity and you are worth something
Oct 9, 2024
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Eat yogurt, kimchi/sauerkraut, miso, kefir, kombucha, pickles, certain soft cheeses cause they’re good for you
I never had a problem shitting I just like funky foods and pretending my gut is a nightclub where all the bacteria are dancing and having a good time like it’s osmosis jones or something
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