I try to remember this a lot when Iâm frustrated with people. Nobody is out to get you. Others are thinking about themselves most of the time anyway. Communication is so important- people canât meet expectations if you donât make them known.
Oct 4, 2024
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I am able to see everything as multifaceted. I know there are more than two sides to the same coin, and I believe things shouldnât be approached as they appear.
being able to recognize this has made me a more understanding person. Iâm still a hater to my core, and I still make snap judgements about people cutting me off in traffic or being rude to me in the grocery store and the like, but as someone who works in customer service, it has helped me not take everything so personally. Someone snapping at me, or asking a lot of questions that may seem obvious isnât necessarily a pock on their character. Someone may be having a bad day, or is really tired, or high, or just hasnât been here and they are overwhelmed because everything is new and different. I am also able to avoid spiraling about my personal relationships because it really is not about me all the time. And even if/when it is about me, it most likely not malicious. A lot of people have anxieties they donât recognize actively, but they still act on them. And that is okay. We are all people, we all fuck up, and we all keep living.
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I was going through the Ignatian approach to education today (adapted from the Spiritual Exercises for those keeping track at home) and this tenet is just so good.
St. Ignatius says that a person, âought to be more eager to put a good interpretation on a neighborâs statement than to condemn it.Further, if one cannot interpret it favorably, one should ask how the other means it. If the meaning is wrong, one should correct the person with love; if this is not enough, one should search out every appropriate means through which, by understanding the statement in a good way, it may be saved.â
This is very Hanlonâs razor (never attribute to malice what you can attribute to stupidity/ignorance) and I just feel like having a curious posture like this is a major slay and makes us better people
Mar 7, 2024
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It really cheeses me off when people think they know what others are thinking or what makes them tick or what their motivations are for something.
Recently heard someone say, "Oh the whole reason 'Brad' did good at [this thing] is because he got social validation from his success."
And I said, "Oh really, did Brad tell you that?"
And of course the answer was no, Brad never said that. It was just a great big assumption about Brad's motivesâand a negative assumption at that.
You contain multitudes. I contain multitudes. We contain multitudes.
We are right now the living, breathing, growing sum of a trillion different factors. It is far more interesting and fulfilling to be curious and ask and be surprised than to project our narrow, limited assumptions on others.
(apparently this is a bit of a theme for me today since I already posted about it in another form)
And if you find yourself mind reading and assuming and putting others in a box, then you know what, no worries! Me too sometimes. But let's not stay there.
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I donât believe in ranking things- restaurants, albums, books, movies, athletes anything, top x lists whatever. I think itâs a waste of time honestly. Even with a completely objective criterion whatâs the point. Would rather listen to and read people just talk about their favorite things and why they are special and meaningful to them- everyone has their own, interesting reasons. And this is a great place to do that!
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