Save ”yes” for what you excites you, interests you, or is at the very least within your capacity. Not every “yes” needs to be enthusiastic but it should be authentic.
Some people have no trouble telling others “no” but it’s taken me a lot of practice. I’ve had to realize that my friends and family love me and value our relationship beyond any single request. Love isn’t transactional like this — or it shouldn’t be, at least.
Anyone you can’t say ”no” to is a walking red flag.
Nov 29, 2024
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its okay to say no and no one should make you feel bad about it
Dec 21, 2023
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if you grew up being a people pleaser like me, it can be so damn hard to set boundaries. but it was so great when I finally realized I simply didn’t have to say yes to everything/everyone.
it was wild. blew my mind. I highly recommend.
Aug 8, 2024
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When you don’t have the energy to do something, when you feel that someone is trespassing your boundaries, when you are not sure about something and know you will be tired from trying it, when you don’t like something, or when you think it would be polite to say yes, when you have a bad feeling, when it doesn’t align with your values.
Dec 1, 2024
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“We live in a world in which we need to share responsibility. It’s easy to say ‘It’s not my child, not my community, not my world, not my problem.’ Then there are those who see the need and respond. I consider those people my heroes.”
— Fred Rogers
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The guy got my attention with, “Hey, I like your shoes.” Just like that, he had me. We talked about where I bought the shoes and how I used to work in the shoe industry. He used to work in the beer industry but had recently become independently wealthy because of an investment opportunity he started with a few of his friends.
”You get to be your own boss,” he told me. Your boot could be on your own neck. We’re back to the topic of shoes.
He told me it’s a small investment to get started but things are really taking off and I could get in on the ground floor. I could quit my job. Work for myself. Had I ever considered doing something like that?
“No,” I said with a shrug. I walked away with my jar of peanut butter. I can’t remember if it was creamy or crunchy. Probably crunchy.
Nice guy!
Feb 25, 2025
I haven’t been on Twitter for years and hardly touch FB, but I had been an active user on Instagram since 2012. I really like taking and sharing photos, and that had always been a fun place to do it.
No more.
With the changes the content moderation changes they’re making, leaving LGBTQ+ folks vulnerable to be targeted; their rolling back of DEI programs; their willing participation in far-right rhetoric and politics; it’s all too much and I’m out.
As if Meta’s platform hadn’t already been increasingly enshittified, this was the final straw to announce how much worse it will get.
And you know what? It feels freeing. Better to leave it behind and find new platforms to connect with people.
Jan 22, 2025